Once, the choice seemed simple. No question of if, only who. When your time came to marry, you searched the available waters for the strongest swimmer and then you plunged in as if you had fallen, crying to be saved. He saved you or you sank: simple. But now the rules have changed. It’s free swim for everyone. No guards blowing whistles. It’s shameful to need a savior, but the water’s as deep as ever, and if you’re reckless you can drown.
Alix Kates Shulman, In Every Woman’s Life